One of the most common questions I hear from couples during the planning process is whether or not they should do a first look. The answer truly depends on your priorities, your personalities, and the type of wedding experience you want to create. As a wedding photographer, I have photographed both options many times, and I can confidently say that each one can be incredibly meaningful when planned with care.


A first look is a private moment where the couple sees each other before the ceremony. It is often quiet and emotional, and it allows you to connect before the whirlwind of the day really begins. On the other hand, skipping the first look means preserving that traditional "walking down the aisle" moment, which many couples dream about for years. Both approaches can be beautiful and authentic to who you are.


Pros of a First Look

  • Emotional connection in a quiet setting: A first look gives you private time together before the ceremony. This can be one of the only moments you have alone all day, and it often results in some of the most heartfelt, candid photos.
  • Reduces pre-ceremony nerves: Many couples find that seeing each other beforehand helps ease anxiety and brings a sense of calm before standing in front of guests. This can also be an opportunity to have private, more emotional vows if that is preferred.
  • More time with guests: By doing portraits before the ceremony, we can often complete most of your photos early. This frees up time during cocktail hour and allows you to spend more of the day celebrating with friends and family.
  • More flexibility with lighting and timeline: Photographing portraits earlier in the day gives us greater control over lighting and helps avoid rushing to fit everything in after the ceremony.

Cons of a First Look

  • It breaks from tradition: If you have always envisioned that dramatic walk down the aisle as the first moment you see each other, a first look changes that experience.
  • You may need to start the day earlier: First looks usually require couples to be fully dressed and ready earlier in the day. This can mean an earlier hair and makeup schedule, especially if portraits will follow.


If You Prefer to Skip the First Look

You absolutely can have a traditional ceremony reveal and still enjoy a relaxed, well-planned photography timeline. I have helped many couples create timelines that prioritize lighting, allow for beautiful portraits after the ceremony, and still give them time to enjoy cocktail hour and the reception. If you choose this route, we will build in extra time for family and couple portraits while keeping the flow of the day smooth and stress-free.

Whether or not you do a first look, my goal is always the same. I want you to feel calm, present, and fully in the moment. I will guide you through the photography timeline so it supports your vision and works seamlessly with your day.

Every couple is different. The best choice is the one that feels right to you.